He comes over and I chatter away nonstop
He makes himself comfortable and the dogs greet him with a luxury of kisses
I suggest dinner and a movie, as we had planned but he says that he is not hungry but that I should order
He mentions money, that he needs to watch his – I do not need to watch mine. I attempt to diffuse any concern but can hear the wind steal my words.
He smokes in the bathroom, the “allowed spot” as it is raining outside. He spends too much time up and down between the sofa and the bathroom.
We have good conversation. Meaningful positive talk about family and emotions but remain distant.
Distant both physically and emotionally.
I order in dinner and he spoons out some peanut butter. The dogs begin to eat and I believe that things are calm.
Before my food can arrive he requests that I call an Uber car for him to go back to his parent’s house.
I ask that he please wait for my food to arrive, that he need not sit with me, and he begrudgedly agrees.
I smile and order his car, pretending that there is no problem.
He tells me:
• that he is worried about his father’s health.
• that he is worried about his health
• that he is afraid that if he stays any longer he will screw things up
Then he tells me how he’s certain that I will hold this against him later; I smile (holding back my true feelings) and tell him that everything is fine.
I wonder what he thinks…
Are we married for convenience?
A failsafe for when his parents pass away?
Does he even feel anything romantic towards me?
Is this what ALMOST OVER feels like?
When neither of us has the nerve to say: “Let’s be best friends?“.